When Toxicity Hits Home

Chris Cassis

19 Posts Published


June 2, 2020


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We’ve ALL had those types of people around us like, friends, coworkers and even family, that have at one point or another not been the best influence for our lives. Whether they have encouraged us to do or say something we shouldn’t or whether they have not given the best advise about how to handle certain situations, many times we come to realize having these people around us is not the best option for us. 

One thing many of us struggle with is letting go of these types of people, specially when it comes to family members. We get used to having them around, bringing negativity into our lives, and not realizing they are doing more harm than good. The guilt of not having them around is heavier than just dealing with their negativity. Nowadays, the term “toxic” is used to describe these types of people. 

There is a quote online by an unknown author that states, “Removing toxic people from your life isn’t the difficult part. Not feeling guilty about it is.” It’s easy to just deal with these types of people just to not feel guilty about letting them go. However, it becomes dangerous when these people start becoming an influence over you and your character. 

God tells us in 1 Corinthians 15:33, “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” God is constantly warning us against being around people who may not be the best influence for us. In Proverbs 13:20 He also says, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”

Although it is not easy to get away from these types of people because we love them and want to reach them with God’s Word or with the example we set for them, once we have planted the seed of the Word of God, we have to allow Him to do the work and not use ourselves as an excuse to be around them. There is a reason why God consistently mentions staying away from these types of people; “Stay away from a fool, for you will not find knowledge on their lips.” Proverbs 14:7 

We are aware that anything that doesn’t come from the Lord is sinful. Although our friends or family may not have the worst intentions in their hearts, Proverbs 6:16-19 states, “There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.” Unfortunately, most of the time, these “toxic” people do exactly these things. 

Let’s ask God to help these types of people renew their minds and hearts and let’s not take on a role in their lives that belongs to God. He is the only one that will be able to do the work He needs to in them. Let’s be reminded of what the Lord says about staying with people who don’t share our same beliefs or faith. “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14